Author: The Godly Princess. 🇰🇪

Dear Gentle Reader, I pray you had a restful weekend and if you are reading this and your weekend was full of worry, confusion, and tears, I am sending you grace, warm hugs and joy unspeakable.

Ours was eventful. Uncle Sam, Aunty Hellen and family paid us a visit and because, Kenyan elections are set for Tuesday this week and all schools are closed, they came with all their five children.

The brunch was initially scheduled for Saturday, but they decided to postpone it to Sunday, and we had to reschedule it too but with second thoughts because Sunday is church day and coming back home to host visitors is a total hustle. Also, where we live water is pumped on Sunday and a better part of the day there is no water in the house because we live on 3^rd floor where water takes forever to arrive. Nobody wants to host many babies in a house where there is no water even if it’s for a minute. Nevertheless, we had done a lot of postponing and we just had to host this brunch no matter the challenges.

When we had a hoot on the gate Nick shouted ‘Woi, they have arrived, and water hasn’t reached our house yet!!’. By this time, I was anxious numb and tired all at the same time, I didn’t know how to react, so I remained quiet. Thank God they arrived and a few minutes later, we had the water trickle into the house. You needed to have seen the relief in our eyes when we had that first drop.

Oh boy! I was happy to see Neema and Paul whom I hadn’t seen in a while because they are boarders in high schools.

Neema goes to Kenya High Girls school, the best girl’s school in the country where all the best performing girls go to. And Paul goes to Alliance Boys High school also, the best boy’s school in the country where all the best performing boys go to.

The rest of the babies are still in Primary School and one of them Anita, who is a candidate and hopes to sit her last examination this year before transitioning to high school didn’t enjoy the visit as much because she was attending an online class. It was so hilarious to see her seated at the corner of the house with her tablet and headphones seriously attending a class and even answering questions while the rest of us laugh loudly at every kind of jokes. Now that’s the disadvantage of advancement in technology because during our time in Primary School, every time we closed down school, there was never another way to attend classes and so we enjoyed every bit of our holidays and only remembered our books the day before schools opening.

Nick had downloaded the movie planet earth, and this kept everyone glued to the TV. I remember this episode where two lions were preying on a baby giraffe and almost took advantage of it, but baby giraffe kicked one of the lions and stepped on it several times and everyone shouted with joy at the victory of baby giraffe. It was so humbling to witness the co-existence of wild animals in the desert, the forest and deep waters as captured by the producers of planet earth movie.

We ate lots of dishes during this brunch. Assortment of fruits, Chicken stew, Beef Stew, Potato chips, Chapati’s, Fried rice, vegetables, Ugali and finally a cup of tea or a glass of juice or both. We had a few foods fail for example, the rice wasn’t as soft as I had thought, if only I tasted the rice while on the fire, I would have added more water but my bad, I didn’t taste it. The potato chips which I had cooked earlier also was slightly hard by the time it was being served. We tried warming the chips on the microwave which helped a bit but still it wasn’t as soft as I had planned and lastly the chicken. The chicken was delivered late, and I had to try cook it fast but even by the time we were serving it, it wasn’t as soft as I had wanted it to be. Nevertheless, the visitors ate everything, so I don’t know whether the foods fail was all in my head or they love hard foods lol…

Time runs so fast when people are having a good time, I don’t know how we got to 5: 30p.m and they had to leave. So, we did a few introductions to the new faces who had attended the brunch too and then everybody was asked to say a few words. When it was Paul’s turn to speak, he just smiled and said he had nothing to say then Nick taught him what to always say in any gathering when he is given time to talk. He taught him using a story.

In this story he said a friend of his who is an old student of Alliance Boys High School was attending a funeral. Everyone was given a chance to speak at the funeral and he appeared composed as though he had a lot to say . However, when it was his time to speak, he went like this…

‘Praise the Lord everyone my name is Nick and I went to Alliance Boys High School. Thank you!’ and everyone clapped and laughed hard as he walked back to his seat.

Nick cracked us up with this story but at the end of the day, Paul learnt the relevant words to always say when asked to say a few words in any gathering.

We prayed together and escorted them to the car and waved as they disappeared in thin air. I thank God for the gift of family, I thank God for opportunity to meet, not for funeral but for laughter and good food.

Thank you ALL for reading. I wish y’all a blessed week full of God’s blessings.

Dear Gentle Reader, I have had a tough time in the past months dealing with someone in my inner circle who is a gaslighter. The person usually makes the world stand still when I offend them by mistake or without forethought, and they won’t allow it to move until I own up to my mistake plus own up to how stupid and worthless, I am to have offended them. However, when they offend me, they have a truck of excuses to justify their offence. For some time, I have learnt to swallow all that in, but I realized when you swallow in every injustice that you experience, the devil stores the offence in your heart and eventually you become worse than the original gaslighter.

Indeed, for a while I listened to the trail of thoughts on my head, and I realized I was soon going to be worse than the original gaslighter and so I decided I was going to arrest those thoughts before they manifest in the physical. I decided I wasn’t going to let him change me.

Friends I know I am not alone in this, y’all have interacted with a gaslighter or are interacting currently and worse off is when you are a Christian because the gaslighter makes sure they attack what is so close to your heart. You have heard statements like this from someone who has offended you already, ‘Is that how Christians behave?’…’You are worst than me who doesn’t even read the Bible’…’and so on and so forth. Such statements bruise your heart big time and fills you with doubt about your Christianity and If you aren’t mature enough, you might end up doubting God. DON’T DO THAT.

It is easy for someone tell you “Why not go and see a counsellor’ but what if your medical insurance doesn’t cover the costs of a professional counsellor? or what if you are an African like me who the only counsellor, they see is the ICU attendant when things have gotten out of hand? lol… So today I will say if you CAN please visit a counsellor’s office when you find yourself in the same bedroom, same house, or same office with a gaslighter. But if you are an ‘African’, then look up. Your help will only come from above.

I am going to quote two scriptures below.

Psalms 121:1-1 I lift my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? my help comes from the Lord,

Proverbs 18:10 The name of the LORD is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.

Friends, the biggest problem we have as Christians is that we don’t know the God we serve and so we doubt Him or take Him for granted. That is why when faced with such trials we revert to ‘helping ourselves’ and then we remove God out of the equation. Oh, what a desperate move!

That’s when we bow to the voice of the enemy. He shouts in our head, ‘Why not just divorce?’…’Why not just walk away from this job?’…’Why can’t you fight this person?’…’why don’t you just stop going to church so that he can be happy and give you peace?’…’why don’t you just link up with your ex-girlfriend who is still single and have some good sex’ and so on and so forth. Oh, what a noisy head?

The sad news is that you could be reading this, and you already bowed to the voice of the enemy and allowed the gaslighter to CHANGE YOU! Oh, what a short-term solution?

I want to remind you that the same God who did wonders in the Bible is still the same God today. Your help can only come from Him. I want to encourage y’all to go back to the old rugged cross where you PRAYED ABOUT ALL THINGS.

Every time you find yourself in tough situations, stop helping yourself you are only giving the enemy a foothold, PRAY. And when you pray don’t approach God with many words, BE SPECIFIC. Tell it how it is, narrate it how you would narrate it to a friend only this time you are on your knees. And taking emotional breaks to cry is okay. I mean, you are talking to your friend so why fear being messy? This is your time to make it noisy and messy, let God know if He doesn’t come for a rescue mission on your behalf you are done because you are losing it. And throw in a few scriptures and a few instances in the Bible where Gods might was evident because God obeys His word and He always comes down with power and authority to defend it. Trust me He will come with every army available and sufficient for your battle.

I hear people say, ‘I prayed but God didn’t respond’. Oh, what a big lie.

I want to encourage y’all to create quiet time within your day however busy you are. If you have babies, even the washroom is a perfect place for your quiet time. Get into the bathroom, take that long warm shower and be quiet. If you can put on your favorite worship song by Elevation Choir, DO IT. Just make sure that environment is favorable for the voice of God to be louder than the voices in your head and the voices in the world. If you can take that quiet evening walk DO IT. You want to make sure you can hear God’s voice speaking clearly with no distractions.

God’s help is sustainable. When he gives you a way out of something and He finds you in a state of mind called OBEDIENT, then you can be sure that problem is over and done with and you don’t have to go back to it another time. God’s word is a secret weapon against the enemy. He can make you walk on deep waters, and you don’t drown, He can make you walk on fire and they don’t burn you, in-fact the people who throw you in the fire are themselves burnt but for you, the Bible says when Shadrack Meshack and Abednego were thrown in the fire, there was seen a FOURTH MAN IN THE FIRE adorned like the SON OF GOD fellowshipping with them. Our God is available to fellowship with you even amid the fire.

And if God provides a door out, it’s always a door into greatness because God cannot lift you from fire into another fire. Avoid giving up and letting go on your own accord, give God room to lead you out.

I am going to conclude with my favorite scripture.

Hebrews 4:14-16

¹⁴ Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven,^[f] Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. ¹⁵ For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. ¹⁶ Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

 

DISCLAIMER: I am glad if my post has encouraged you because writing this has been a way of encouraging myself and reminding myself to stay grounded.

 

 

Aunty Liz and Uncle John are members of our church who have been childless for 13 years since they got married.

They are both so loving and kind and full of laughter always.

Uncle John is very kind and supportive to Aunty Liz and Aunty Liz the same.

It’s the way they handled me while I was still in school that made me give them the name aunty Liz and uncle John. They were so loving to me and I found an aunty and uncle in them.

Personally I have been praying for them to get a child and always waiting to see aunty Liz expectant.

And thanks be to God because this year God came for a rescue mission and gave them bouncing baby Myles.

I just wanna write this post to lift the name of the Lord for He has done a miracle for my friends.

Victory Belongs to GOD.