Today’s Topic:The Husband’s Responsibility To His Wife
Today’s Scripture: Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
Paul says to the husbands that they should LOVE THEIR WIVES. Under Jewish law, a woman was a THING , the possession of her husband, just as much as his house or his ﬂocks or his material goods. She had no legal rights whatever. For instance, under Jewish law, a husband could divorce his wife for any cause, while a wife had no rights at all in the initiation of divorce; and the only grounds on which a divorce might be awarded her were if her husband developed leprosy, gave up his beliefs or sexually assaulted a virgin. Therefore,In Jewish and Greek culture, the woman had little to no rights. She was a piece of property meant to serve the husband. Therefore, Paul’s teachings ran against the sway of Jewish society. The husband was COMMANDED to love his wife. Ephesians describes what the husband’s love should look like. He is called to LOVE LIKE CHRIST. Ephesians 5:25–28 says,
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR HER to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to PRESENT HER TO HIMSELF as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. IN THIS SAME WAY, husbands ought to love their wives as THEIR OWN BODIES. He who loves his wife LOVES HIMSELF.
What are characteristics of the husband’s love?
1. THE HUSBAND’S LOVE MUST BE REALISTIC.
The husband should have no unrealistic fantasies about the woman he is marrying. Christ loved the church and died for her while we were still enemies of God (Rom. 5:8). Christ knew she was sinful and disobedient. Yet, he still gave his life for her while knowing her faults. His love was realistic. In a marriage, both mates should understand this reality. The husband must love realistically; this woman has been infected by sin just as the man has. She must be reformed daily by God’s grace, and she must be loved through her faults. Scripture says, “Love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Having a realistic love is important for both mates, because if you don’t have it you will become disillusioned. I have no doubt that the reason the highest number of divorces happen in the first year of marriage is because most love is unrealistic.
2. THE HUSBAND’S LOVE MUST BE SACRIFICIAL.
He is to love her as Christ loved the church and be willing to die for her. It should be heard that if anybody feels like the wife’s role is unfair, they should give more thought to the man’s. It is much easier to submit to someone than to give one’s life for that person. This love that the husband is supposed to embody is IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT THE GRACE OF GOD. To love sacrificially means the husband must at times give up other things to SERVE and PLEASE HIS WIFE. He must sacrifice for her. He must sacrifice time, entertainment, friendships, sometimes even career, etc., in order to love his wife.
3. THE HUSBAND’S LOVE MUST BE PURPOSEFUL.
Christ’s love makes the church holy by cleansing her with the Word. Christ’s purpose is to make her the perfect bride. Similarly, the husband must love his wife through teaching her Scripture, getting her involved in a Bible-preaching church, encouraging her to get involved with small groups and ministries or areas where she can grow and serve. He must seek to cultivate not only her character but also her calling so she can fulfill God’s plans on her life.He must discern her gifts and talents and encourage her in the use of those for the glory of God. This love also means at times admonishing her to help her know Christ more. It is a purposeful love. Every man should consider if he is ready and willing to love a woman this way before getting married. Is he ready to be a SPIRITUAL LEADER?
4. THE HUSBAND’S LOVE MUST BE PERSONAL.
He must love her as HIS OWN BODY. Every day the husband brushes his teeth, combs his hair, and clothes himself. Every day he maintains his body. Sadly, we often go days without maintaining our marriages. It is very easy to get so busy with life and ministry that we allow weeds to grow up in the garden of our homes. Love must be personal. We must love our wives like our own bodies, and daily we must take time to cultivate a happy home.Submission and authority in marriage are ugly words in our society. However, there should be no issue with submission when someone LOVES US LIKE THIS. Scripture says it is the LOVE OF GOD THAT BRINGS MEN to REPENTANCE (Rom. 2:4), and the man must allow this love to transform his wife.
The purpose of life is to be happy. From the moment of birth, every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering.’ And your romantic relationships are, above all else, the things that either create happiness or suffering in your life. So choose wisely and I hope you find love that is calm, nurturing and which feeds your soul. You deserve it.❤️